THE NARCISSISTIC FAMILY YOU GREW UP IN INSTALLED RULES YOU'RE STILL RUNNING.
TIME TO SEE THE CODE.
If you were raised in a narcissistic, controlling or chronically boundary-violating family, some of the rules you learned as a child may still be influencing your relationships, decisions and sense of self today.
Over 21 days, we will work systematically on identifying those old patterns, interrupting automatic responses and building a practical toolkit you can continue using long after the intensive ends.
- Starts Sunday, October 4, 2026
- Daily direct answers from me inside the community
- 21 guided daily practices — self-paced within each week
- 70 seats only to protect the small-group experience
- Lifetime access to the training
- 4 weekly 2-hour live face to face video calls with me - I’ll answer any questions you have about the course
What People Experienced In Our Last Intensive
These comments come from participants in my previous live intensive. This is a new program, with fresh material, built around the same live structure, direct guidance, and focused daily work.
Completely Transformative
“The 4 weeks of the intensive were completely transformative. I addressed the core issues that were holding me in a state of codependent survival.”
“After completing the intensive, I can no longer abandon myself.”
Anonymous Participant · Rated Value: 5/5
Life Back
“I've got my life back. I am having way less shame spirals and am much happier overall.”
“My sense of true self is much stronger. I'm empowered and I have a lot more energy and clarity on what happened to me.”
Frankie Burrows · Rated Value: 5/5
Clarity and Community
“The clarity about what I was dealing with, and the sense of community, were really important.”
“Before the intensive, I was completely immobilized, ruminating constantly, and my nervous system was so activated.”
Anonymous Participant · Issue Improved Significantly
Less Alone
“The community made me realize that I’m not alone.”
“The community and the live sessions were the most useful part. It's intense and you need to commit, but if you commit, it's worth it.”
Anonymous Participant
Deeper Understanding
“This intensive peels away the onion skin one at a time, leaving you looking at the past and how it affects your future.”
“The sessions defined what was happening to me on another level.”
Anonymous Participant · Would Recommend: 10/10
Serious Work
“If you’re serious about dealing with the trauma of narcissistic abuse, this course will give you everything you need to start.”
“The content was very good. Richard’s teaching was what made me decide to join.”
Anonymous Participant · Rated Value: Worth It
YOU MAY HAVE LEFT THE FAMILY SYSTEM YEARS AGO.
BUT PART OF THE FAMILY SYSTEM MAY STILL BE LIVING INSIDE YOU
You may be completely capable, intelligent and independent in many areas of your life... and then suddenly find yourself unable to say a simple NO to a particular person.
- You over-explain.
- You feel guilty for having needs.
- You take responsibility for other people's emotions.
- You give far more than you actually want to give.
- You tolerate behaviour you would immediately recognise as unacceptable if it were happening to somebody else.
- Or you repeatedly become attached to difficult, coercive or emotionally unavailable people despite knowing exactly what these relationship patterns look like.
That can be extremely frustrating. Especially if you have already spent years reading about narcissism, watching videos, analysing your childhood or going to therapy. The problem is that understanding what happened does not automatically stop the old conditioning from influencing what you do now. Some of the rules installed inside a narcissistic family system can survive long after childhood has ended.
Rules like:
- TOTAL OBEDIENCE IS MANDATORY.
- OTHER PEOPLE'S EMOTIONS ARE YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.
- SAYING NO MAKES YOU SELFISH.
- YOUR NEEDS CREATE PROBLEMS FOR OTHER PEOPLE.
- KEEP THE PEACE, EVEN IF YOU HAVE TO ABANDON YOURSELF TO DO IT.
Those rules may no longer be spoken aloud.But they can continue operating automatically.
COMPLETELY NEW MATERIAL
I created this intensive specifically for people who were raised in narcissistic, controlling or chronically boundary-violating family systems and are still dealing with the consequences in adulthood.
And I want to be very clear:
21 DAYS IS NOT LONG ENOUGH TO RESOLVE CHILDHOOD TRAUMA.
That is not what I am promising. What 21 days can do is introduce you to a system and toolkit that you can continue applying for years. The objective is to identify the mechanisms that are still influencing you... understand them from a different perspective... interrupt some of the automatic responses... and begin establishing a different trajectory.
DAILY STRUCTURED WORK
Each day you will have psychological work to complete. Allow approximately 30–40 minutes per day.
This is an active intensive. You will get much more from it if you actually complete the exercises rather than simply consuming the material.
WEEKLY LIVE VIDEO SESSIONS
We will meet live every Sunday throughout the intensive.
You will be able to submit questions and I will answer them as clearly and practically as I can to help keep you on track.
COMMUNITY AND GUIDANCE
You will also have access to a community of people doing the intensive alongside you daily.
And you will have access to me if there are questions you need answered during the intensive.
What the work actually looks like
We are going to approach these problems using a practical psychology-as-engineering frame. Instead of endlessly analysing your parents, we will look at the mechanisms still producing consequences in your life now.
You will work with things like:
You will also build:
This is for you if...
This is not for you if…
Your 21-day live VIDEO Q&A schedule
Understanding the narcissistic family system, unblending from the old story, beginning tactical grieving
Daily guided exercises to identify inherited family rules, old emotional roles, and the patterns still shaping your reactions
Boundaries, saying no, over-responsibility, rescuing and people-pleasing
Daily behavioural work to practise boundaries, return responsibility to others, and interrupt guilt-driven automatic responses
Introjects, repetition compulsion, distrust of your own perception, intensity vs intimacy
Daily exercises in reality-testing, identifying internalised family authority figures, and separating present relationships from old conditioning
Rebuilding identity, authentic self, new decision-making patterns, future direction
Daily exercises to strengthen self-trust, define personal values and boundaries, and create evidence of a new trajectory through action
If you miss a live session, the recording will be uploaded for replay access.
Frequently Asked Questions
Need More Support?
Reach out to our dedicated support team, and we'll be happy to assist!
This is a 21-day educational intensive led by Richard Grannon for people dealing with the adult consequences of being raised in a narcissistic, controlling or chronically boundary-violating family.
It combines structured daily exercises, four weekly live video sessions, community participation and ongoing guidance during the intensive.
The intensive begins on Sunday, October 4, 2026. The live sessions take place every Sunday at 6 PM UTC:
October 4
October 11
October 18
October 25
Each day: 4-minute video, 10 minutes journaling, 5-minute audio visualisation.
The weekly live sessions are designed to help keep you moving through the work. You can submit questions by text and Richard will answer them as clearly and practically as possible.
No. Community participation is encouraged because sharing some of your work can make the process more useful and reduce isolation, but you can share anonymously and decide what you are comfortable disclosing.
Yes. You will have access to the intensive community and Richard for questions during the active intensive.
You may request a refund within 48 hours of your purchase.
After that 48-hour window has passed, all sales are final and no refunds, rollovers, pauses, or transfers are available.
This is a deliberately limited-seat intensive. Once you enroll, we allocate program capacity, community access, and support resources to your place.
Please only join if you are comfortable with this policy and ready to commit to the intensive.
Yes. You will have lifetime access to the training so you can return to the system and toolkit whenever you need them.
No. This is an educational and supportive intensive. It may be emotionally meaningful, but it is not therapy, diagnosis, treatment, or emergency care.
