Despite their lies, provocations, gaslighting and abuse you still crave their attention. So why can't you let them go?

The Answer is simple. It's trauma bonding. I discovered trauma bonding while studying the psychology of narcissistic and psychopathic abuse. Unlike the widely known but rarely evidenced "Stockholm Syndrome," trauma bonding offers a clearer explanation. According to the Psychoanalytic "splitting" defense, we cope with intermittent abuse by mentally separating and suppressing memories of the abuse. This leads to an internalized, false perception of the abuser as "good," allowing us to endure the trauma as a perceived survival mechanism. This traumatic bond can only be broken by reintegrating the split.